Victim Mentality – Why Do Some People Always Complain?

Do you know someone who you think has a chronic victim mentality? There are many possible reasons why a person starts thinking and behaving this way. It is possible to list certain traits that can always be perceived by this type of person.

Those who suffer from chronic victim mentality tend to be very insecure about themselves and are dependent on the help of other people. Among other things, they are unable to solve their own problems or identify mistakes they have made.

Is victimhood a disease?

Victim mentality is also considered a possible symptom of a psychological disorder. This is because it can manifest itself more strongly when a person has some such disorder.

This type of thinking not only completely affects a person’s lifestyle, but also the lives of those around him.

We have all had to face very difficult things at some point in life. So we’ve all been victims at times – whether it’s the result of someone trying to hurt us, or the fact that our own bad decisions have put us in bad situations.

What makes a person better every day is a good attitude. In this way, we can get over any situation and move on in life.

Sadly, not everyone has the ability to take that kind of attitude and the ability to move on. Instead, a person may wrap up in a cloak of negativity, and he may become a victim of himself for the rest of his life.

How does a person behave if he has a victim mentality?

A person who thinks this way is easy to identify. Even by paying attention to the obvious, poor posture, and constant pessimistic tone of his face, you can recognize that it is a victim mentality.

• In this case, the person tries to make what is happening to him appear as a kind of curse or caused by another person.
• Because of this, he then intensifies his sacrificial mentality until he alienates the people around him from himself.
• He often clings to feelings such as bitterness or jealousy, and he avoids taking any responsibility for his own bad things.

When a person has this way of thinking, some traits are most noticeable. These things that clearly reveal the victim mentality include the patterns of behavior we describe below.

1. He accuses others of not giving enough help

Most often, such a person feels frustrated when he does not get help from others. He does not trust his own abilities, and does not feel able to solve his own problems.

In general, then, a person always translates things into great drama.

2. He subconsciously manipulates facts

It doesn’t matter what the story behind the problems might be. A person with a sacrificial mentality will always look for ways to misinterpret the facts so that things are someone else’s fault and never his or her own.

This is something a person like this does naturally because of their way of thinking – he feels like a victim.

3. He has little self-criticism

Although people with chronic victim mentality are unable to identify their own good qualities, they can still be critical of their own actions. This can still only be a way to further prove that things that went wrong are the fault of someone else.

Man’s sacrifice makes his ability to criticize himself quite limited.

4. His imagination focuses on the unfortunate

This type of person believes that the world is suffering and that the future is not going to be good.

In fact, he even feels good when he talks about this with other people. All of this stems from a distorted perception of reality.

5. He subconsciously manipulates others

In this case, the one with the victim mentality uses blackmail as the only way to get all the help he needs, just when he needs it.

Therefore, he who sees himself as a victim sees an effort to influence the minds of others, and he makes himself a victim all the time. Then, when he experiences someone’s unfortunate situation or accident, other people feel responsible and offer to help in the way they want.

6. Problems become eternal

Chronic victim mentality is a problem that will only get worse over time. Man’s perceived misfortune and complaints become habits.

This can cause a person to become desperate and frustrated, and everything becomes a burden on him on an emotional level.

At this point, some then become  victims of their own lives and are unable to find a way out of the situation.

Does all this sound familiar – is pretending to be a thing you’ve come across in one way or another? If you can identify yourself from this description, or perhaps someone close to you, you may want to consider getting professional help with the problem. You will be amazed at how much change help will bring about in a situation like this.